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Sparkling lights in the trees, hot chocolate, warmth of a fire, singing, silent snow.

The holidays are arriving.

The holiday season can be a tough time of year for many people. Some of us feel more alone on holidays than other times of the year. Is it the diminishing amount of sunlight as the northern hemisphere tilts away from the sun? Is it a perception of feeling lonely v. enjoying alone time? Is it financial pressure? Is it the pressure of meeting unreal societal expectations? Is it family drama?

What is your emotional compass? What keeps you centered no matter what is happening? What helps you feel alive and connected during the end of the year and holidays? What are you looking forward to now?

In Private

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What are your beliefs that you will not compromise on?
Are there any of your beliefs that hold you back?
What are the benefits of your limiting beliefs?

Do they help you play small?
Can you see any reason to release a limiting belief?
What would happen if you do?

Mercurial

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expansion v. contraction
active v. still
laughter v. tears
confidence v. insecurity
aggressive v. passive
certain v. doubtful
inclusion v. exclusion
open minded v. certain
healthy v. sick
stressed v. peaceful
sensitive v. shut off
productive v. bored
internal v. external
fulfillment v. empty
connected v. separate
responsibility v. blame
hope v. despair
celebration v. shame

Nothing about human emotions are consistent. Choose what feels better to you and take baby steps to get there. Small shifts create big results

You are One

 

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What is your overlay?

An overlay is the one thing in the world, that if it would happen, your life would be so much better. You would be happy. It usually involves your health, finances or love.

Your overlay influences your perspective and approach and somehow is always present. It is helpful in that it helps you clarify what you want. It is sometimes painful or unhelpful because you perceive yourself as separate from it.

If you can connect to your joy and happiness before you achieve that one thing or combination of things that you perceive will make you happy, everything is yours.

Stop the Spin

You can't think your way to love, you have to feel your way to love. This means honoring all emotions. Your emotions guide and help you like trusted advisors. Emotions that are feared or repressed result in blocks.
To embrace your emotions: Allow them, learn from them and release them. Move emotions through your body to clear your blocks and feel better.

A simple tool for you to use is your own personal Emotional GPS to choose a more joyful life: Move closer to what feels better to you and move away from what doesn't feel good to you.

Trust and love your internal wisdom.


 

Dating Rules

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What is wrong with dating rules?
Nothing if they help you connect with more Unconditional Love.

What is wrong with dating rules?
They imply love has rules, it does not.

Trust your heart.

Room at the Table

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Can we evolve from the I win, you lose mindset to take care of, help and lift each other up? We face issues and challenges that take all of our resources and  working together instead of fighting each other.

It starts inside.

Define Yourself

One of the biggest relationship mistakes you can make: Trying to be what you think your partner wants you to be.

Although this is a loving intention, it is misguided. You can not think for your partner so you can not possibly know what they want. If they do communicate clearly to you what they want, how long can you put what they want you to be before who you are? Is it worth it to you to be in a relationship where you are not seen, heard, understood, accepted and loved exactly the way you are now?

Keep this clear and loving boundary to enjoy more unconditional love in your relationships.

Mars v Venus

Men and women are from different planets.

Have we evolved beyond this suffocating and separating mindset yet?

Stop with the painful stereotypes and generalizations. Unconditional love has no boundaries. Love comes in many flavors, colors and energies. We heal, thrive and become unlimited when are allowed to be ourselves, when we share unconditional love.

Planet love is home.

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