You Know Scrolling

Yes. Maybe. Please no.

Scrolling through you might have noticed or felt a little fakery, deceit, manipulation or confusion. Or a complete turn off.

Who loves online dating sites?

Yet, you search them. Why? What is going on?

Hope is ongoing. Up to a point, your hope outweighs your distrust.

The hope that you will find someone who gets you. Someone who understands and wants to hold you. Someone who will be there for you through joy and sorrow. Someone who will complete you.

Someone “perfect”.

There is someone perfect for you. It is you. Yes, you absolutely deserve love, companionship, incredible sex and laughter. Provide all of them for yourself first before you ask another person to do it for you.

This is great self-love.

This is taking responsibility and owning your emotions to give yourself what you seek in others. Don’t expect another to give you what you can’t give yourself: emotional clarity, connection or money.

Switch it up. Have fun being your own best friend and give yourself what you have been taught to look for in other people, places and things.

From this loving and centered mind set you can then decide if you want to be in a relationship. If you want to share your open heart with another person or not. No judgment. What you decide is best for you. What you seek outside yourself, you have inside yourself now. You have your answers.

If you do decide to consciously create a new relationship, you do it from love centered empowerment, not needy desperation. You give yourself permission to be your loving self from the start. This eliminates the need to people please and allows you to present yourself in all your magnificence in the beginning. Natural confidence from the get go. When you begin any relationship in honesty you hold space for the other person to do the same.

If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got. Get uncomfortable. Try next. Do new.

How you do it is up to you and your creativity. Dating sites? Face to face conversations? New activities/clubs? With a little support and help from me, your loveologist?

Take new love avenues. Enjoy new love approaches. With or without scrolling online dating sites, you are well on your way to new love results.

Love On.

p.s. -  Get in touch with me at: https://m.me/RisaKelley

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