Imagine yourself walking in a gorgeous forest on a bright summer day. Notice the amazing birdsong, plants, flowers and trees. You feel alive and connected on your walk until you step into something sandy and soft that sucks first your left foot and leg and then your right.
Quicksand.
You are in up to your waist and don't know how to get out. You do know that if you struggle, you will sink fast. Fast. In the next minute or two you will be in way over your head.
This is what crossing strong boundaries in love relationships feels like. You are having a great time until you're not. It happens in an instant and then there's no going back.
Create strong healthy boundaries in your relationships to keep yourself centered and calm. Give yourself and your partner plenty of space to grow, change and adapt in. Consciously chose to reduce relationship claustrophobia.
One area clean boundaries are especially important in is thinking for yourself. Clarify what you want and what you want to express. Communicate your truth to be heard and respected.
Avoid the temptation to analyze and try to figure out what your partner is thinking. Don't get in their head, you don't belong there. You don't know what they are thinking better than they do. You don't get to play both sides of the relationship.
Unless you want to create a snarled mess.
You can't possibly think for another person and trying to results in painful guessing games and tangled communication. Figuring out and speculating about what is going in your relationship on sub and multi levels increases misinterpretation and possible hurt. Don't get caught up in the intrigue, connect with the love. Attempting to get in their thoughts stems from a need to control.
Authentic love can't be controlled.
Stay in your own thoughts to reduce misunderstandings. Allow yourself and your partner to own and be responsible for your own words, emotions and actions. Cut the drama in your relationships by thinking for yourself and allowing your partner to do the same. Share from an honest loving intention.
Forget and unlearn mind games that lead to pain.
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