Love is infinite and eternal, yet love relationships change and sometimes end:
Someone you love moves far away and you lose touch . . .
A connective relationship dissolves. . .
Your loved one passes.
This doesn't mean your love for your loved one ends. Your love for them changes. And so do you.
When an important love relationship ends, the realization that you won't be able to see, touch, talk or be with your loved one again is beyond painful. Stinging. Biting. A heart crushing loss.
You feel an aching emptiness. Physical illness. A void. A challenge to go on and to function.
Loss tilts the day and then marks your days. Life doesn't seem the same. The finality bites into your heart. You cant go back and yet you don't know how to go forward.
You replay memories that bring you comfort and more grief. The echoes and whispers of your love hurt you now. Your loved one is present through their absence.
How the hell do you get out of this pain-laced house of mirrors?
Trust yourself. Go within. Close your tear swollen eyes and allow yourself a moment of peace. A small time out from grief.
A breath.
Give yourself more small breaks at first. Then increase the number and frequency of times you allow yourself to rest. Let go and relax even if you can't sleep now.
Time will help you begin to heal and you can help yourself as well. You can choose to be gentle with yourself. Don't judge yourself. Don't make yourself wrong.
Allow your feelings. Allow yourself time to process your feelings. Allow your strength to return.
Reach out. Ask for help. Ask for help, it is one of the most courageous actions you can take.
Talk to someone who will listen and understand and not steer a majority of conversation to their experiences of grief and loss. Express your feelings in a safe and non-judgmental space in your way.
It hurts more to keep grief in. Journal, exercise, create and express yourself.
Allow your grief. Clarify the learning and gems in your grief. Release it.
Don't stuff it down inside of you. Don't fight it. Don't numb yourself out and dissociate from it.
Your grief means you loved. Your grief will take you to the other side of your emotions and to days of more love. Make peace with your feelings. Feel the whole spectrum of emotions, they are your guides to more of what you want and less of what you don't want.
Your grief will help you connect with more joy when you are ready. The deep loss you feel is a hint at the magnitude of love you feel.
And you are here to love.
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