Thursday, March 1, 2018

Just Don't




What you give you also receive, especially when it involves gossip.



Dishing dirt. Throwing shade. Spilling the tea.



Beware, those who gossip with you will gossip about you.



I have gossiped and been gossiped about. You have gossiped and been gossiped about. We all have. It used to be a way of bonding. Gossip provides a temporary connection between people based in hate, guilt, separation or shame. It encourages ugly connection and pain.



Gossip is a heavy weight to bear. It’s a nasty collective addiction as well as ugly individual entertainment. It weighs us all down.



Gossip has up until now been a nasty pastime. Talking critically about someone not present is felt on some level and keeps a secretive negative energy open and alive.  It encourages old emotional wounds to resurface and harden into knotted emotional scars.



When we gossip, we have forgotten to treat others like we want to be treated. We have temporarily forgotten to be empathetic. We disregard that we all are one and what we do to others, we do to ourselves.



It dissolves trust and separates us. It damages the people who do it and the people it’s done about; lose-lose.  Gossip obliterates any chance for a positive reciprocal relationship.  We can do better.



Awareness will help us consciously choose to do infinitely better and align our actions with our words.



With practice we can begin to listen, to understand, to freely offer our empathy and give compassion. We can intend transparency and inclusion. We can shift to helping instead of harming each other as we mindfully choose inclusive clear communication, collaboration and contribution. When we share what is important to us respectfully, we all learn. We can listen to each other in a new way and gravitate to what feels better internally and in turn, for the higher good of all.



Each of us can learn to take responsibility for our emotions and actions and consciously release what has hurt us. We all can remember that our authentic empowerment is within us, not outside of our self in another person, their words or experiences.



What a person says about us reveals more about the speaker than the spoken of.



The sooner we shift to more empathy and compassion, the sooner we stop the poisonous pipeline of gossip. We begin connecting more over what heals us instead of what harms us. This one small shift can help everyone feel a little lighter.



What we give we also receive. We all are worthy of unconditional love. The shift to more unconditional love starts within each of us.



Love On

Risa



p.s. - You are worthy of more love, joy and connection. Absorb that. Today is the day you flip your painful love script to your pleasant new love results. With new ideas, information and exercises (like my free love guide to help you get started: https://optimizedrelationships.com/5steplgbridge ), you can create love relationships that you - well, love!



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Love On!

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