The First Date Shakes

You are crystal clear that you want to date.

You know exactly why you want to date and aren’t afraid to share it.

You are open minded and open hearted while you also know your deal breakers.

You set yourself up for dating success. You put thought and time into your profiles, photos and messages. You are social. You joined groups, commented on people’s posts and started friendly conversations.

You are ready for fabulous dating fun with your eyes open.

Now it’s on to a first date or twenty as you think of meeting someone face to face, one to one and in person. You feel an avalanche of emotion. You anticipate the shakes. Allow those shakes, if you feel nervous and you are excited at the same time, you are ready.

Ready-ready.

Take a breath and trust yourself. It’s okay to feel nervous. Reframe and remember why you want to date. Stay grounded in your self-love and genuine confidence. Reconnect to your dating intentions and purpose to center yourself and move forward.

Move forward with a mutual choice.

Choose where you want to go and what you want to do on your first date with the person you are going with. Together. Yes, start out in balanced energy. Both of you have equal input and veto power. Begin this new experience with respect, honesty and courage. Use your voice and be real.

Do not agree to do something that you don’t like to do. Don’t get caught up in what you imagine the other person might think of you. Don’t invite someone on a date because you don’t want to go alone. Use your empathy and compassion.

Forget impressing each other.

Forget flowers.

Forget the expected first date.

Don’t start off in a tangle of old stereotypes and expectations. Do not put on a mask or play games from the get go. Don’t make your first date a job interview or an interview for a possible sexual partner.

Don’t do the same old trap. Don’t go to a nice restaurant for dinner and drinks. Don’t expect one person to pay. Don’t set up an intimate meal with someone you are not physically or emotionally intimate with.

Don’t set yourself up for disaster and then wonder why it happened.

Go easy on the alcohol and weed.

Do get to know each other in a low or no pressure environment. Do meet in a public place with people around for your safety. Do have a friendly date before you have a romantic one. Play. Do something you each can afford instead of something luxurious and lavish.

Do something you like or have wanted to try.

Do something new.

Do get to know each other.

Be yourself.

Pay for yourself.

Share yourself.

Enjoy yourself.

Love On.

Risa

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