You Can

I want more love in my life but

I’m broke

I can’t afford it

I am poor

Does this sound familiar?

I have heard this or some variation of it many, many times

Are they related?

Like currents in a river, flowers in summer and darkness in night

Yes

Since what you focus on expands

You are focusing on what you don’t have

In love

And finances

And feeling fear

It’s called a Scarcity Mindset

And most of us have become very skilled at it

We think about what we don’t want and then energize it with our emotions

Making it stronger

We are great at imagining future negative outcomes

We don’t want to happen

And then fearing them

Do you do this?

Is there another way?

Yes

You can choose to shift your mindset from fear to abundance

It isn’t easy and it takes consistent commitment and practice

It’s self-love instead of a magic wand, pill or fix

If you want to try something new

Here are 5 Steps to Shift out of a Fear/Lack/Scarcity Mindset to an Abundance Mindset:

1.       Become aware of your thoughts and self-talk.

2.       Identify the thoughts you have that feel bad. Journal your scarcity/fear/lack thoughts. (I can’t afford it, I’m broke, I’ll never find love again, All the good people are taken, etc.) Notice when you are reinforcing the scarcity program you run.

3.       Begin to allow, learn from and release your fear. Sit with your fear thoughts and notice what happens. Breathe. Notice, that you survive your fear thoughts. You are here and you can create something new.

4.       Choose to shift to better feeling thoughts. Begin to list all that you are grateful for in your thoughts and in your journal.  Make it personal. Gratitude is a game changer. When you are grateful, you cannot hold another emotion at the same time.  Gratitude empowers you to shift your thoughts to what you want instead of what you don’t want.

5.       Use gratitude to measure all you have and all you do. Gratitude lifts your energy to inspire you to new ideas and action. Gratitude helps you move forward with momentum. Consciously choose thoughts that focus you on abundance instead of fear. Imagine the details of abundance overflowing and plenty. From this higher energy, you get to choose to create new action steps that feel good to you.

Are you willing to feel your fear/lack/scarcity thoughts and learn to release, reframe and replace them with abundance thoughts?

New Thoughts + New Action = New Result

Nobody can do this for you

You can

Empower yourself

Love On,

Risa Kelley
Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

Spiral Up Into More Love

You’ve been through it all

On-line dating sites

Blind dates

Speed dating

Cute co-workers

Hanging out in the grocery store

Hoping someone interesting is in the laundromat

Dating TV Shows

Listening to the “Experts”

The Rules

Yikes!!!

You have been there and more than done the dating scene

Yet nothing seems to work

So, you blame yourself

And wonder what’s the matter

With you

What if I told you it’s not you, it’s what you were taught?

The toxic social programming

Oh, it’s definitely about YOU

But not about what you are lacking

It’s about what you have now

Somewhere deep inside

The twisty turning pathways to your gorgeous heart:

Self-Love

I know, I know

You’ve been taught self-love is selfish and

To put everyone else before yourself

How is that working out?

You’ve tried everything else

Are you finally ready to try self-love?

Are your ready to be kind and loving with yourself?

So that other people learn how to treat you too?

Are you ready to tap into your natural source of unconditional love?

That nobody can take away?

Of genuine confidence?

Of peace of mind?

I thought so

Now is the time

This is the place

To remember and empower yourself with self-love

I have lots of valuable info for you

To use

To start your new and exciting love journey

That never ends

Start here by downloading my free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

Give it a read

See if it’s a good fit for you

And if it is, we can work together to help you spiral up into more love than

You dreamed possible

Today is the day love changes for you

Love On

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships 

p.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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You're Trying Hard Not to Show It

Lost that loving feeling?

What if you could start fresh in your love relationships?

A clean page

A new leaf and

An open heart

You can!

That is why I created my online course called Love On

To help you if you feel sad about love

Maybe hopeless

Maybe like giving up

Please don’t

We need you to help shift the planet to more love

Now

Picture your connection to many types of love

Love for your favorite color

Love for yourself

Love for pets

Love for nature

Love for life

Now close your eyes and imagine your love inside

Go one step further and imagine a container to keep you love in

Safe

Strong

Coffee cup?

Wine glass?

Big bucket?

Now visualize pouring out what’s inside your container today

Giving it a good rinse and

Refilling it with what feels much better

What doesn’t hurt

What connects with all love every where

With all that is

With new love

Big love

Okay open your eyes

This is what we do in my 6-week online course Love On

Ready for your new lovely cup?

And what goes inside it?

Find out more here:  https://optimizedrelationships.clickfunnels.com/loveonsp

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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Your Love Code

Like your finger and toe prints,

Your heart light and

The colors of the morphing iris that surrounds the pupil in your eye,

No 2 people are the same

Inside or

Out

Cool

Nobody else can be you.

Nobody else can live your life

Nobody else can know what it is like to be you inside and

Nobody else has your contribution for the planet

How do you live full on and contribute to the planet?

Start inside

With your love code

No one else has it

Find out more here:  https://optimizedrelationships.clickfunnels.com/loveonsp

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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Crying in Your Car

Showing our emotions has been discouraged

Because we have been told

Crying is a sign of weakness

Yet

We’ve all cried alone

Every one of us

Have wept salty tears that release toxins from our bodies

Yet we are shamed

For being human

You’ve cried alone, right?

Maybe in your car

Maybe with tears running into your ears as you tried to fall asleep at night

Maybe in the shower with water streaming down

Maybe suddenly

When pain and sadness knifed into you without warning

And you swore you never wanted to feel shattered like that again

So, you did what we do

You bottled up your tears and turned down the volume on your emotions

Toughened up

Understandable

Until a temporary way of coping morphed into a permanent numbness

Right?

Here’s the thing about emotions

After your life has evened out again and

When you are ready to learn from them

Your emotions give you very important information

To use

To enjoy life more

The full spectrum of emotions is helpful if you allow it

To guide you

The unwanted ones tell you what to run from

The wanted ones tell you what to run to

Your natural emotional GPS

All your emotions need attention and to keep flowing to and through you

Feel, learn from and release all your emotions to stay centered

And healthy

And open hearted

And when you are ready

Welcome your emotions and their information

Because

Emotions are our greatest strength

Because they connect us to each other

And encourage collective healing

So, give yourself permission to have that beautiful cry in your car

And know

That you are healing yourself and the planet 

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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The Spark in Your Heart

Fabulous food, drinks, and celebrating

Go together

Unless everyone is celebrating

Except you

If you dread holidays

Alone time or

Get togethers

Because you feel lonely or miserable or

Judged

Then it’s time to switch things up

And align with more love and the inclusion

You crave

The catch is

You can’t do it

Doing the same thing you have always done

Instead

Take one small new love baby step today and tomorrow and

For one week

And then see where you are

If you feel stuck and

If you need help and

You can ask for it

I have new love info, support and practical tools

To assist you

In your journey to next level love and connection

All you do is

Make peace with your emotions and

Unlearn what isn’t working

Replace it with what feels better

Now

If you have an open mind, an open heart and you are ready

To connect with the spark in your heart

We start with your genuine self-love that leads to

Big Love

Simple yet effective

Inclusion, celebration and authentic confidence are yours

When you choose to empower yourself lovingly from the inside and

Adventure outside of your comfort zone

With a little help of course

Freedom worth celebrating!

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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I Can See You by the Light in Your Eyes

You have a beyond busy life

A plugged-in life

And that’s okay

Unless

You are so externally focused or

Distracted

That you do not make time for yourself

Or you keep yourself so every minute busy

That you don’t have time to think

You might have learned

It is less painful

To avoid your emotions

And the self-awareness

Of your thoughts

Because then you won’t feel pain

You won’t hurt

You won’t dive into deep pain

You don’t know how to get out of

And so,

You live half a life

Knowing there is more than

This

But not knowing how to get there

It’s not your fault

It’s past social conditioning

That keeps you stuck

Because if you could have thought your way

To feeling better

You would have

And the cycle continues

Exhaustion

Self-judgment

Missing something you cannot name and

More of the same

When you are absolutely fucking sick of the spin

Call me

Let’s talk

About you

About practical steps you can take

New information and action

To live a whole life

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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