All is Not Lost

I notice a striking theme in my face book comments about love and relationships. Have you seen it too? Some people comment along the lines of: all the good men are gone, there are no women anymore for me, I suck at relationships, there is no hope, I’m too old for love or are you crazy! (usually a bit more profane, but you get the idea).

Wow! That is a whole lotta energy. Sorry/not sorry to lay it down here.

Let’s start with what all these comments have in common. They are limiting beliefs. Closed doors. Predicted outcomes. Blocked energy. Reasons not to try again.

And if you truly have given up, stop reading this. Go no further. Return to your life as you know it to be.

You might think I don’t understand. But I get it. Our experiences with love lead some of us to believe that we can predict the future. Our relationships and experiences have been beyond hurtful, soul crushing and shook us to our very core. Some folks have been so consistently disappointed in love that they want to write love off forever.

And guess what? They are 100% correct. Right as rain. Spot on and completely correct. Yep.

Until they decide differently.  Until they are ready to change. To try something new. Until they realize they have the power to make their relationships better. After they realize they are the only person standing in their own way. They have new choices.

Yep. All of us are responsible for our own life, choices and love.

I respect wanting to sit out of love relationships forever. Flying by the seat of our pants with the old love information we were taught, we were set up for buckets of pain. It is extremely hard to try again after getting your heart stomped on. I felt like that at times. I dated a serial killer. No joke. But that’s another story for another day.

Back to face book.

I like those face book comments because to me, they show hope. Why would somebody take the time and make the effort to type a comment if they had totally given up? Right?

That faint shimmer of hope lurking in those comments comes through loud and clear. Commenting is a way to share their disappointment in love and relationships. It shows me they have enough energy to care. They care and share! Sharing is loving. Caring is loving. Am I right?

So, to all you lovely commenters in face book land, thank you for your comments. Please know that you don’t have to look for love in the old ways anymore. It’s time to stop looking for love outside yourself. It’s time for the fast path to love that lasts -  and I can help you with that.

This is what I do. I help you create the relationships you dream of in new ways with new mindsets, strategy, accountability and support. And boy do I support you!!

A word of caution - you won’t get new love results doing the same old things you have been doing. It takes hard work, a commitment to yourself and a big heart. Which I know you have.

Here’s to the open doors, new possibilities and abundant love that is waiting for you.

When you are ready to take a small step toward a new love perspective, check out my free, safe, non-judgmental face book group here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1503456919702692/   

Love On,

Risa

p.s. – if you want to sit on the sidelines of love, no judgment or pressure. We will be holding space for you if you decide you are ready. You are as worthy of love as anyone on the planet.

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