The first time I talk with Melissa she is tearful and her voice breaks.
Melissa’s ex-boyfriend took out a restraining order against her. She tells me
she is in love with him and she needs to get back together with him.
Tim’s girlfriend has cheated on him for the 10th time and he wants to
“save the relationship.”
These are 2 past clients (their names have been changed) of mine that
wanted to know how to get their ex partners back. There are many more who share
this common desire of wanting to get back together. I have heard dozens of
variations on the same theme of - I want
to get back with my ex and I’ll do anything to achieve it. Getting back with my
ex is the only thing that will make me happy, I can’t eat, sleep or be happy
without them ever again. S/He is the only one I want.
Others ask me for a love spell. Or to reveal to them the 5 secret words
that you can repeat to have your ex return to you and stay forever. Because they
have been taught that there is a magic pill for everything, they want a quick
fix. Instant gratification. They kick themselves thinking about what they did
wrong and how if they could, they would go back in time and fix this.
Sound familiar?
When their friends, family and co-workers stop listening and their eyes
glaze over as they repeat for the 100th time their desires to get
back with their ex, they call me.
No judgment, I understand. I understand that if things could just go
back to the way they were, their love life would be perfect.
Only it wouldn’t.
It wouldn’t because they are miserable. They are crushed and hurt. And
nobody can make it better except for them. Their ex isn’t responsible for their
emotions, they are.
They aren’t close to being who they are at their core. When they feel awful, they are far, far away
from being their genuine self. They are upset and unhappy because they aren’t
being loved for amazing person they are now.
So, they try to bring love in through the outside world and in through
their ex.
They want to go back to a relationship that doesn’t serve them because
it’s familiar. Humans don’t like change. They would usually rather deal with
what they know than deal with the new and unknown. Unknown is scary.
Here’s the thing: there is growth in pain if they allow it. Pain is an
opportunity to feel better. Releasing the pain makes them stronger. They can mindfully
choose to get quiet and reflect. Go inside and really think about what happened
and what the lesson is. They can use this information to go forward and begin
to heal. Use it to help align more with their heart and the genuine core of
their being.
They and you can learn to allow, embrace and release pain to
free up space for something new in life. That’s where I come in. I help my
clients learn to move on. A great place start is with my free first module of
Win the Love Game – You Are the One. Click here to receive it now: https://optimizedrelationships.com/wtlg-freemodule1-v1
I offer everyone I work with understanding, support,
accountability and strategy to create the relationships you dream of. Learn skills that will last a lifetime to help you feel better in all your love relationships. I help you
align more with the amazing person you are inside and share it.
Instead of searching for love on the outside. Or through your ex. Or in
a pill, product or spell.
The love you seek is inside. You are strong. You have your answers.
Work on yourself first and then your relationships ease into place.
Love On,
Risa
p.s.- See if the free content in the first section of my
online course resonates with you. Click here: https://optimizedrelationships.com/wtlg-freemodule1-v1
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