Allow yourself to gently breathe and become quiet. Close your eyes and
focus on your internal universe. Open
space in your mind and heart for new.
In this relaxed state, I have a question for you.
Do you know anyone that has won the waiting game? Do you know someone
who has waited long enough to get what they want without action? And then enjoy
it?
With their health? With their relationships? With their finances?
Especially in love relationships. It seems so many people are waiting. Waiting
for the right moment. Waiting for someday. Waiting for “the one.” Waiting for
their king or their queen. Waiting for him or for her to find me. Waiting for
their other half. Waiting for the soulmate.
It’s understandable why people wait. We’ve been taught old approaches
to love and relationships that don’t work well now. Old stuff like, your soul
mate is searching for you like you are for her/him, so just be patient. Hmmm.
Or, your queen/king is going to save you just by showing up in your life and your
life will be perfect. Really? Sounds more like toxic conditioning to me. Or, do
it the old way and find someone to support you financially and you both will
live happily ever after. Oh boy.
I’m not saying it doesn’t happen. It just doesn’t happen much more than
it does happen. Not great odds for your love life.
Let’s think logistics. How exactly is a partner going to find you if
you wait? Are they going to show up at work, at the gym, on your doorstep or in
your bedroom? You’ve been led to hope to meet someone on line. You might and
you might not but until then. . .
Waiting sucks.
Waiting is a conscious choice. Waiting is choosing to ignore your power
and abilities and indulge in wishful thinking. You wait to meet someone that
hasn’t shown up and wonder why you are discouraged.
Open-ended waiting is a slow torture. Waiting is the opposite of living in full.
Yet, lots of people wait for true love.
What are you doing while you are waiting? Wishing? Hoping? Longing? How
does that feel? If it doesn’t feel joyful, you are not aligning with who you
are your powerful core.
Help yourself feel better. Begin to honor your authentic empowerment to
connect with more love and joy.
Unlearn the waiting game. You
can do it. Step by step. Start living. Start connecting to people outside of
your comfort zone.
Go to new. New shops, new restaurants, new clubs, new concerts, new
parks, new locations, new music, new art, new interests that you have always
wanted to do to but didn’t.
Start something scary and new. Feel your fear and do it anyway. Do it.
Reach out. Be the one to initiate eye contact and conversations, ask
questions and take genuine interest in the people around you. Stop waiting.
Be friendly, open and interested in your life and other people’s lives.
Do what you love. Invest in yourself. Remember your hobbies or try new
ones.
If you wait, if you do what you have been doing, you will get what you
have been getting: more waiting. Stop believing in old fairy tales and take new
action. Now.
When you are ready, the path to new love is here. Schedule your FREE 30-minute Love Strategy
Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching
Love On,
Risa
Optimized Relationships
p.s. – Tell me what you need from me to help you
know if this is right for you. Message me here: https://m.me/RisaKelley
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