Rejection.
On some level most of us are afraid of it. Afraid of the chaos, upset
and pain we don’t’ want to feel when we are rejected by someone we love.
Abandonment sucks.
Rejection is the illusion of having a deeper relationship than really
exists.
When we open our hearts and make a conscious decision to be vulnerable,
we also open ourselves up to the sting of rejection by another person. Giving
someone permission to reject us is all part of fully committing to a love
relationship.
Or is it?
It’s time for a shift to a new love mindset that empowers us. One that encourages us to love ourselves completely.
To love ourselves deeply. To take full responsibility for our emotions and
actions.
Taking responsibility for our emotions allows us to use them to help
ourselves. Our emotions provide us with information and guidance. Feeling our emotions fully helps us
recalibrate, adjust and pivot in our love relationships; to move toward what
feels better.
To create our love life and life as we feel it.
That starts with self-love. When we love ourselves on a profound and
authentic level, we are the only person who can accept or reject our self.
Let that sink in. We are the only people that can reject or accept
ourselves.
That doesn’t mean we won’t be sad or confused or angry when a love
relationship ends for whatever reason. Our expectations and attachment increase
the pain of separation.
It does mean that we can choose not to give the precious responsibility
for our happiness to another person. Many of us have felt the crushing pain
when we believed that it is our partner’s or loved one’s ability to make us
happy that indicates real love.
Not so.
Real love starts with self-love. It is our work and our reward to take
responsibility for our happiness and our love. Our life.
Then we can choose to create a love relationship or not.
Choosing to feel and own our emotions while learning about our self and
other people increase connection in our relationships.
Authentic acceptance.
Love On,
Risa Kelley
Optimized Relationships
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