It Was Clear She Couldn't Go On

“I have trust issues”

“Trust is a problem for me because my ex cheated on me”

“I want to learn to trust again but I don’t think I can”

I hear painful variations on trust repeatedly

Trust is beyond important

Healthy relationships don’t thrive without it

Yet we have a fucked-up view on it

Because we are taught from infancy to give our trust to others

We learn to trust others to fulfill our basic needs of food, shelter and safety and

This leads some of us to grow up and search outside ourselves for emotional or financial fulfillment too

As we age, we continue the pattern and look for people to trust with our emotions

Or we shut down

In hopes we will be okay

Only to realize that not all other people will care for and value our trust like we do

Setting ourselves up to feel gutted or numb

Because we are wired for survival, we focus on who we can’t trust

Breeze by who we can and

We trust only a few people or nobody at all

Open or closed heart

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results

Is it time to change up these insane patterns?

How?

By nurturing the profound trust you have inside

You can trust yourself, right? Or learn to trust yourself?

You are the one person you can trust

You know you will take care of you

And that is healthy

Do not give the responsibility of your well being to other people

Who haven’t earned your trust

This is different than closing off your heart

This is doing your own deep self-work

To remember and nurture your own inner guidance

By plugging into your trust, self-love, forgiveness, self-confidence and empowerment

So that you may live into more of your unlimited potential with joy

And serve others

By holding the space for them to do the same

As you learn to re-remember the treasures you have inside instead of searching for them outside of yourself

In your love partner or in other people’s approval

You take responsibility for your own fulfillment and sovereignty

You empower your self to

Own your emotions, inner wisdom and actions

And remove this burden of outer fulfillment from yourself and your loved ones

Lifting a massive weight from many shoulders

To create

Relationships sourced not in neediness, but in light love

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- I have new information, exercises, visualizations and accountability for you if you want support with re-embracing your heart wisdom, message me here: https://m.me/RisaKelley?ref=LetsChat or if you want to talk about it, get on the phone and schedule a free 30 minute call with me, click here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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