The Spark in Your Heart

Fabulous food, drinks, and celebrating

Go together

Unless everyone is celebrating

Except you

If you dread holidays

Alone time or

Get togethers

Because you feel lonely or miserable or

Judged

Then it’s time to switch things up

And align with more love and the inclusion

You crave

The catch is

You can’t do it

Doing the same thing you have always done

Instead

Take one small new love baby step today and tomorrow and

For one week

And then see where you are

If you feel stuck and

If you need help and

You can ask for it

I have new love info, support and practical tools

To assist you

In your journey to next level love and connection

All you do is

Make peace with your emotions and

Unlearn what isn’t working

Replace it with what feels better

Now

If you have an open mind, an open heart and you are ready

To connect with the spark in your heart

We start with your genuine self-love that leads to

Big Love

Simple yet effective

Inclusion, celebration and authentic confidence are yours

When you choose to empower yourself lovingly from the inside and

Adventure outside of your comfort zone

With a little help of course

Freedom worth celebrating!

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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I Can See You by the Light in Your Eyes

You have a beyond busy life

A plugged-in life

And that’s okay

Unless

You are so externally focused or

Distracted

That you do not make time for yourself

Or you keep yourself so every minute busy

That you don’t have time to think

You might have learned

It is less painful

To avoid your emotions

And the self-awareness

Of your thoughts

Because then you won’t feel pain

You won’t hurt

You won’t dive into deep pain

You don’t know how to get out of

And so,

You live half a life

Knowing there is more than

This

But not knowing how to get there

It’s not your fault

It’s past social conditioning

That keeps you stuck

Because if you could have thought your way

To feeling better

You would have

And the cycle continues

Exhaustion

Self-judgment

Missing something you cannot name and

More of the same

When you are absolutely fucking sick of the spin

Call me

Let’s talk

About you

About practical steps you can take

New information and action

To live a whole life

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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Beyond Lonely

Have you ever been so lonely you felt like howling?

Have you ever been so lonely you could not move your body?

Have you ever been so lonely you could not feel anything?

Have you ever been so lonely you hurt yourself?

Have you ever been so lonely time stood still?

Have you ever been so lonely you couldn’t cry?

Have you ever been so lonely you lost all hope?

Have you every been so lonely you wanted to die?

What did you do?

I am listening with no judgment. . . let’s talk

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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Whenever You Need Me

The moon

The tides

The seasons

Night and day

Nature has beautiful phases

Humans have beautiful phases

Emotions

Awakened

Asleep

Energetic

Tired

Confident

Contracted

Loving

Needing Love

Introverted

Extroverted

Hopeful

Not

Allow all your emotions, moods, energy levels, thoughts

Learn from them

And then release them

Don’t judge yourself

Love into yourself

Love eases

All your emotions

And experiences

Change is constant

Adapt with love

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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I Found Someone to Take Your Place

Emotional

Attachment is feeling joy

Through another

Person, place, experience, idea, thing or pet

Instead of through ourselves

Attachment causes suffering

Suffering is optional

So

Our challenge then becomes

To feel authentically joyful

Inside first

To remove the NEED of feeling it through

Someone

Or something else

To reclaim responsibility for

Our emotions

From grief to joy

And absorb the information the entire colorful spectrum

Of feelings

Offer us

Each one of us

So that we may choose

To help ourselves

Self-soothe

Center and

Feel better

Not avoiding but

Using our emotions

To relieve the pressure

And responsibility

Of emotional attachment

To and through someone else

Or something else

For our sovereignty and

Happiness

Emotional empowerment leads to more

Healthy and

Loving Relationships and

Less suffering and

Less attachment

Let’s do this together

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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A Whisper of Love that Haunts You to Help You

Do you know a quote that goes something like this?

“When you stop needing something, you are free to receive it.”

What’s your response to it?

It really applies to love

Especially unconditional love

We have been programmed to believe love is outside of ourselves

So, we search for it

And we all know how painful it is

To long for something we don’t have

For something we have tried and tried

To capture

Only to have our hearts shattered and shredded

Annihilated

By love’s absence

So much so that we may not to try to find love again

Enough

Time to release the beliefs that hold us hostage

Because it is in the seeking

Or the finding

That we are lost

We are not separate from love

Not apart from it

We are love

We hold love

We carry with us every minute of every day

We have been programmed to seek it outside of ourselves

When it is sourced within us

Within our broken or healing hearts

We have learned to forget that love is our greatest strength

Our beautiful empowerment

We are never alone

We were love, we are love now and we will always be love

Because the light love we have inside us

Connects us to love energy everywhere and always

The love that whispers to us when we feel sad, separate or lonely

Is reminding us that it

Love is alive

Inside

In our body, mind and spirit

Love craves expression

Connection

We are loved, loving and loveable now

Instead of searching for what we have had

All along

We can begin to shift

To remembering what is inside

Our hearts and

Appreciate it

Nurture it

Share it

For when we stop seeking what is naturally ours

We are free to receive it

Be the love you seek

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want help with re-embracing your heart wisdom, click here for your Free Love Guide: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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Hey Butterfly

Stuck in a relationship spin cycle?

You will put up with it

Until you can’t stand it for one more second

You will put up with it

Until you want to scream

You will put up with it

Until you crave different results

You will put up with it

Until changing feels better than not changing

You will put up with it

Until you won’t

You will change

When not changing is unacceptable

You will change

When you are past ready

You will change

When you decide you are the only one who can make you truly happy

You will change

When you remember who you are at your core

You will change

When you listen to and honor your voice inside

You will change

When not changing seems like it will kill you from the inside out

You will grow

When you remember your light and strength

You will grow

When you release your beliefs that hold you back

You will grow

When you consciously choose

To take care of and love yourself

Deeply

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want personal support with re-embracing your heart wisdom, message me here: https://m.me/RisaKelley?ref=LetsChat

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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