Love Ruts

Comfort zones. What’s your love comfort zone like? Do you choose to leave it?

Staying in your comfort zone in your love relationships is okay. Seriously okay. Comfort zones allow you to process your feelings and figure out what you want. They allow you to feel safe and thoughtfully respond in your relationship(s) and I’m all for that.

But there is a catch.

Comfort zones often grow too big. Without your permission. Then you find yourself feeling restless. Or bored and unfulfilled. Craving new people to have new experiences and adventures with, right?

You see where I’m going with this. Comfort zones are great until they aren’t. Until they quietly contract. Until you feel stuck. Stagnant.

Feeling stuck can tempt you to break out of your comfort zone in dramatic away. Instead of taking a flyer and doing what might harm yourself and/or other people involved, plan your expansion. Thoughtfully push those personal development boundaries. Seek new, next and what you have always wanted to try.

It doesn’t matter if you are in a happily or sadly in a love relationship, happily single or sadly single, every once in awhile ditch your comfort zone to grow and enjoy new learning. Try something that raises your energy just thinking about it. Do something that scares you a bit. If the thought of it terrifies and excites you simultaneously, do it! Go to your magic. (unless it involves cheating on your partner in any way. In that case, FINISH one relationship before you start another or suffer the consequences. You have been warned.)

Grant yourself permission to start something new. Grow. Embrace the beginner’s grace you had naturally as a child. Challenge yourself not to be skilled or masterful or adult at something fresh.

Play.

Be bold. Be creative. Be child-like (vs. childish) and have fun growing the boundaries of your comfort zone until it becomes your personal playground. Remember and reconnect with what you do well and what you fires you up. Recall what you loved to do before you became an adult.

Don’t just talk about connecting with new people, places and experiences, do it. DO IT. DO IT. DO IT. Action PLUS movement get your energy and momentum flowing and will carry you forward. Waiting is the opposite of living. Get living. Create your life and love relationships as you want them now. Live out loud. Shift out of stuck and into new.

Love On,

Risa

p.s. For a safe space to talk about all things love, check out my face book group loveologists here:  https://www.facebook.com/groups/1503456919702692/

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