The Opposite Sex, Really?

You have been spoon fed toxic social conditioning since you were a small new human:

Men do this. . . and women do this. Females like this and males like this. Little boys are different than little girls because. . . Blah, blah, blah. 

Quite simply, we all want to be loved.

And yet most of us have been socially conditioned to put ourselves and others in gender boxes. Think about it. Men and women have been taught to identify each other as the “opposite sex.” Opposite as in we couldn’t be more unalike. Opposite as in we are from different planets. Opposite as in there could not be more distance between us.

Not so fast there.

Focusing on differences is not a way to bring people together, it’s a separation strategy.  It encourages disconnection and mind game playing with each other. It encourages appearance identification that feeds judgment.

Judgement hurts. It damages the person judging and the person being judged.

Pink v. Blue

Tough v. Soft

Big v. Petite

Aggressive v. Passive

Problem Solver v. Needs to Talk

The limiting opposite sex mindset is responsible for frustration and confusion in relationships today. Many people believe they will never figure out the opposite sex. How can we understand someone who doesn’t understand us? It’s like trying to talk through a thick wall with no other way to communicate. 

That wall exists in minds that don’t questions it. 

Not all men or women are one thing all the time. Not all men or women do one thing all the time. Not all people identify as male or female.

Instead of lasering in on alleged differences, we can focus on our similarities and begin relating to one another on a genuine heartfelt level. We can mindfully choose to focus on what feels much better: our inner knowing and outer connection. 

We learn from each other.

We all have our own combination of energies and who is to say these energies are only masculine or only feminine? The need to identify and judge is holding us back and stifling us. When we learn to love and accept ourselves and each other as we are, the world grows. Our energies and adaptabilities are in constant motion and the less we identify with a gender, an age, a body type, a personality classification, a country, a political party, an occupation, a lifestyle or money, the more freedom we have to be ourselves. To enjoy, allow and appreciate. To unconditionally love.

We all have similar needs and dreams. 

It is past time to stop judging each other by our outward appearances.  At this moment we can choose to see each other as multi-faceted human beings that love, are loved and are loveable regardless of what we look like or we can continue to identify and judge each other. 

It’s time to open our hearts as we consciously move toward unity and inclusion.

Allow.

Accept.

Understand.

Unlearn the opposite sex mindset. 

Love On, 

Risa

p.s. For new love mindsets and strategies, choose a time to talk with me that works for you here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching 

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