What kills creating new love relationships before they start?
The toxic social conditioning of
Comparison and
Competition
You have seen it a million times over dozens of platforms
A fake or real relationship lifestyle
Celebrities posting about their fabulous partners
Friends coupling up on social media relationship status’
Nothing is wrong with well intentioned sharing and genuine help
Until we compare/contrast ourselves with a tiny slice of life posted on
social media or face to face
Until we compare our insides with other people’s outsides
Until we use other people’s relationships to beat ourselves up
We have a natural tendency to assess our environment and scan for
threats
To measure what we lack
And that is all well and good
Until it isn’t
Until we take it from the jungle to our emotions
Comparing ourselves to others can turn into a nasty cycle of I am
better than they are, I am less than they are.
Hurts
Ever done it?
We all have
No one is superior to anybody else, no matter what we have been taught
What’s the way out?
To unlearn ranking, rating and judging
To measure what we have in this present moment without comparing or
competing
With love
Big Love
Unconditional Love
Invincible Love
When we offer compassion and love to ourselves first, we begin to shift
to genuine gratitude
Genuine gratitude is a game changer
The game changer
With gratitude we measure what we love about what we have now
And get more to be grateful for
A delicious cycle
Are you in?
Love On,
Risa Kelley
Optimized Relationships
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