It seems so cruel and
so many of my clients face this
that I want to shine light on it here
Call it catfishing, love scamming, what the hell else
It happens all the time in our social media world and it goes a little
something like this:
You see someone on line you are attracted to, you strike up an on-line
convo, you can’t believe the connection you have, you “talk” often in written
messages, things move quickly as they say all the “right” things, you become
(usually unknowingly) emotionally attached and
BOOM!
They need money just for a little while, they will pay you back double
or
They need visa cards, I-tunes cards or other cash loaded cards or
valuable items you can provide
Just temporarily and
They will come visit you soon to be together, but
They have (plausible to the emotionally attached you) reasons why they
can’t talk to you on the phone or
On Facetime
Or why they can’t meet you face-to-face
And they question your feelings for them if you are even slightly
curious about what is happening and they attempt to manipulate and control you
through their anger, your shame or both
What a nasty fucking emotional cocktail
It wrecks people emotionally with guilt, embarrassment, grief,
abandonment and anguish
My job is to listen to you without judgment about exactly what happened
in this beyond devastating scamming scheme and provide insights to how it works
and support you until you recover
And you heart is still attached to it all
If it’s happened to you, I hope it never happens to you again
If it hasn’t happened to you, make sure it doesn’t with this simple sentence:
It isn’t a relationship if
you haven’t met face-to-face
Don’t let yourself become emotionally attached to someone you have
never met, to a photo, to well spun love stories, to the idea of being in love
or to anyone you haven’t seen and spoken with
IRL
Period.
Love On,
Risa Kelley
Optimized Relationships
Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash
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