Goodbye Cruel Love

We are taught that love is outside of ourselves

And we need to bring it inside

To feel loved

Through other people, food, drugs, shopping

You name it

To be happy, fulfilled and joyful

And when that doesn’t work out

We feel sad, lonely, depressed

With no way to feel better

A cruel love mindset

A recipe for more sadness, loneliness and depression

Instead

Get tools to feel better and

Write your new love story

Ready?

Take a practical first step

Start with how you feel

Become aware of your emotions

Allow your emotions

All of them

Don’t fight or resist any of your emotions

Use the information from your emotions to guide yourself to feel better

Feeling shitty gives you information to use

If you feel awful, you are not close to the core of strength you have inside

You have forgotten your inner resources and

You are far away from your inner light

Feeling consistently low is disconnection from the magnificent human being you are

Feels terrible

Not feeling shitty also gives you information to use

If you feel grateful or joyful, you are aligning with the core of strength you have inside

You feel your potential, possibilities and contribution

You are connected to your inner light and its’ connection to the light of all that is

You feel on a physical level that your life energy connects you with all life energy

To shift

Begin to consciously choose

Choose how you want to feel and if it is different from how you are feeling now

Choose to become self-aware

Choose to use your emotions like the tools they are

Use your Emotional GPS

To feel better now

Help yourself

Love yourself

Enough to know that

You are enough

You have strength and power inside

Tougher than your challenges

Even if it doesn’t seem like it now

Change begins inside your heart and mind

With your thoughts

With wanting change more than comfort

And leaving your old love story behind

Ready?

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want personal support with re-embracing your heart wisdom, message me here: https://m.me/RisaKelley?ref=LetsChat

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching 

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Get It Together Baby

Have you noticed

How lack in one area of your life might influence another area?

It might be in

Romantic relationships, health or financial abundance

Or in a combination of them

Traditional social conditioning says lack or scarcity is because you are either lucky and you are not or

You are chosen or you are not or

You are being punished or

You are not a “good person”

Let’s call bullshit

You have searched for solutions

Over and over

When solutions didn’t arrive

You remembered the problem

Over and over and

Tried even harder and

Unintentionally energized it and felt more

Lack and scarcity

Now shift that

Consciously direct your thoughts and focus

To what feels better

Gratitude

Love

Connection

What you think about with feeling

You get more of

Abundance or scarcity

Scarcity or lack is also believing

Other people and circumstances have power over you

Rather than

In your own possibilities and potential

You have inner resources that are greater than the challenges you face

Shift out of scarcity and into abundance

Count all the things in your life you are grateful for

Get as good at focusing on what you have

What you love

As you were at what you fear and lack

As you notice fear or lack thoughts, shift to gratitude

Tap into your strength inside to thrive

Not other people or external circumstances

Remember love is your real power and then

Remember your love connects you with all that is

Draw strength from oneness

Help other people

To feel better

To energize, amplify and elevate your abundance

All abundance

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want personal support with re-embracing your heart wisdom, message me here: https://m.me/RisaKelley?ref=LetsChat

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

Your Love Is Looking Out For You

Ever feel like destroying someone because they hurt you?

Or want them to suffer as you suffered?

Have you considered thanking them?

Huh?

Stay with me here

All your emotions are valid

You can learn as much from the ones that feel awful

As you do from the ones that feel fabulous

When you shift and

Begin to focus on the ones you are tempted to run away and hide from

Un-numb yourself

Your uncomfortable feelings hold important information for you to use now

To guide you

To self-soothe and feel better fast when you

Welcome in the lessons your pain, anger, shame, sorrow bring

For in these feelings

Arrive knowledge

Straight from the center of your heart to you

From you to you

That you are enough

That your upset, devastation and pain are because you don’t feel loved as you want to be

Are worthy of

Know is your destiny

These uncomfortable feelings are a loving signal for you

To get back to your power

Get back to you

Your love inside

And remember you are never powerless

Your power is unlimited

Call up, align with and amplify the light and love you hold in your core

Know they are the source of your strength, connection, wisdom and potential

Your love is bigger than any challenge you face

The love within your heart is looking out for you

Sometimes it feels good, sometimes it doesn’t

Pain is a reminder that you are strong

That you are getting stronger and gaining clarity

The love inside your heart is your compass

To your power source

To help you help yourself

To align you with more love

Live and love into your heart

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want personal support with re-embracing your heart wisdom, message me here: https://m.me/RisaKelley?ref=LetsChat

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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If Your Love is Strong

Everything is energy

Emotions are energy

Fear is energy

Love is energy

Inside and out

If we are not in physical danger

Fear is a thought

Love is a thought

Fear and love are on opposite ends of the emotional spectrum

Every choice we make is based in fear or love

Getting away from fear

Getting close to love

But what if they are gifts in each other?

Fear is low level energy

Heavy

Clouded

Clogged

Easy to resist, yet resistance makes fear stronger

When we choose to focus on fear

Become aware of fear

Sit with our fear

Even though our instincts are screaming at us to flee

When we choose to stay present with fear, learn from it and let it go

We survive

We get stronger

When we choose to allow and learn from our low energy emotions

Like fear, anger and shame

We can begin to

Unlearn what has hurt us

In the past and

Choose to consciously respond

Instead of reacting

To mindfully take a moment to contemplate

Begin to free ourselves from

The trauma we lived

And start to heal

When we make this choice

We naturally move closer to more love

The self-love we hold within our hearts now

The love inside

That elevates and is infinite

That connects everyone

The choice is ours

It isn’t all or nothing

Fear or Love

The choice is to become aware of and

Move all emotions and energy through our well beings

Keep our energy fluid

For the Fear and Love inside

And each other

The choice is ours

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- If you want personal support with re-embracing your heart wisdom, message me here: https://m.me/RisaKelley?ref=LetsChat

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching

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Catch Real Love's Whispers

You know on a deep level

Love is real

Like gravity and wind, you can’t see or prove it

And yet it is

Love is real

In the way you comfort others with genuine compassion

In a kiss on a child’s forehead at bedtime

In the passion between lovers

In the eyes of animals and pets

Love is an energy

You feel

Love is the most important ingredient in food we share

Love is passed along through generations of people

Love outlives and outlasts us

Love is a natural resource inside

Available and inclusive of all

Love lives inside your heart

You know feeling loved and loveable

You know how to offer love

In everything from a birthday card

With heartfelt wishes

To tear- filled goodbyes

And wound kisses

So, what are you waiting for?

Not a partner or a significant other

Or anyone else’s permission

To feel more love now

Empower yourself by intentionally choosing

To live in more love

Honor the love that lives inside your heart

It is your strength as you

Catch love’s whispers

Plug into your unconditional love

Call it up

Amp it up

Send it to yourself

And all your cells

Use it to feel better

Anytime

Comfort yourself with it

Center yourself in the love you hold in your heart

Now

To feel more love

And bring more love into your body, mind and spirit

Into your life

And broadcast love

Love is a higher energy, vibration and frequency

That people are naturally attracted to

Want to explore

Want more of

So, intentionally offer your love

Without expectation of love in return

Without fear

Because you can

Because your love is your gift

Your love is real

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- Begin your new love journey with my free 5 Step Love Guide to embrace more self-love. Click here to receive it now: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide 

p.s.s.- If you are tired of feeling stuck in love, take a bolder step and schedule your free 30 minute Love Coaching Call with me here: https://calendly.com/optimizedrelationships/lovecoaching 

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Pull Me Closer

Romantic relationship break ups shred us

The end of a love relationship you want to continue is one of the most emotionally, physically and intellectually heart shredding experiences ever

Beyond words sad, lonely and spinning

And yet

If someone wasn’t ready or able to love you like you want

That is information you can choose to use to help yourself

Help yourself

A break up can lead you to more rich real love that lasts lifetimes

Redirection

Not rejection

When you have wept, grieved, let go and begun to heal

You can begin to see a break up in a new light

In the clouds parting kind of light

Being without someone romantically is an opportunity

A window of time

To pull yourself closer

And gift yourself with

A moment to get clear on where love is sourced

And that is inside

Love is sourced within you

Not through them

Not through other people, places and things

When you go to your depths

To love into your darkness

And your light

You release the need to have someone else do it for you

You become emotionally responsible

To never feel the need for someone else to love you more than you do

Again

Free yourself

And step into your light and empowerment

Genuine, rock solid strength

When you connect to the divine unconditional love you carry with you

And remember

It connects you with all love energy everywhere

You embrace unshakeable authentic confidence

In knowing that no one can reject or accept you

Except you

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- I have a loads of free information to help you. Start with my free 5 Step Love Guide to embrace more self-love. Click here to receive it: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide 

p.s.s.- If you want personal support with re-embracing your heart wisdom, message me here: https://m.me/RisaKelley?ref=LetsChat

A Lover's Mindset

Assigning fault in relationships is worthless

And yet we blame ourselves

Because

We have learned that relationships are successes

Or failures

When maybe

The all or nothing, rich or poor, good or bad, winner or loser mindsets

Hurt us

If the only ways we see ourselves

Are harshly through each other’s eyes

We set ourselves up for pain and separation

Can we transform and shift this shit?

Soften the cages we keep ourselves in

So, our lives begin to change

Expand and lighten up

Bloom

In ways that we couldn’t predict

When we were pointing the sharp fingers of blame

Maybe it’s not so much all or nothing

But a fusion

Of many, angles, perspectives and views?

When we start to look lovingly at ourselves

With true appreciation

To see the beauty of the light and love we hold within

We begin again

Free ourselves

From the unrelenting judgment

That keeps us each isolated and lonely in our little

Self-created prison cells

Of social conditioning, control, comparison and competition

Then we elevate further

Once we embrace our own light

We can see the love and light in each other

Everyone, everywhere

Inclusion

Envision and act on

A new loving future we create

Together

See you in the sunlit fields

Inside and out

To love ourselves and each other up

Way up 

Love On,

Risa Kelley

Optimized Relationships

p.s.- I have a loads of free information to help you. Start with my free 5 Step Love Guide to embrace more self-love. Click here to receive it: http://bit.ly/5stepLoveGuide  

p.s.s.- If you want personal support with re-embracing your heart wisdom, message me here: https://m.me/RisaKelley?ref=LetsChat


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